The Generation of Blocking and Ghosting People

The broken hearts, the family feud — the friend we no longer speak too — the falling outs of life. The people who went ghost on you.

When its really done, when you want to seal the deal that you are fed up, completely over with this soul, you open up your laptop, unlock your phone and do what any normal person would in this generation… hit BLOCK.

You block your ex boyfriend, that annoying coworker, the self pittying aquaintance who creates her own drama, your ex blocks, your ex’s new jealous girlfriend blocks you, your cousin who hates you blocks you, it goes on and on. There are 100 different reasons of why it happens and who does it, but:

It is the ultimate way that anyone can send you a clear message that they want you gone, never to be heard from again.

Instagram: (…) Block User [ Are you Sure?] (Cancel) (Yes I’m Sure)

Twitter- @NoLongerExistsInMyLife will no longer be able to follow or message you. Block.

Facebook — You can block someone to unfriend them and prevent them from starting conversations with you or seeing things you post on your timeline. Block User:__________ Block.

Phew! All Blocked.

Blocking someone is really weird because it’s like erasing that person from your “life”. With the click of a button, they are gone. Vanished to this island in cyberspace where all the blocked people go.

(Sounds super dramatic — obviously nothing like that happens, and I think the word makes it sound worse than it is. They don’t turn into a gray blob, They still breathe and live in the world.)

This concept probably happened 100s of years ago, where you stopped writing a person and sending your carrier pigeon but it so easy to just “ghost” someone today.

Blocking and Ghosting are two different words but with underlying connections.

Ghosting according to Urban Dictionary: “The act of suddenly ceasing all communication. This is done in hopes that the ghostee will just “get the hint” and leave the subject alone, as opposed to the subject simply telling them he/she is no longer interested.”

You begin to ignore their texts, sending those one word responses: haha, cool, same.

You open their snapchat and don’t respond (scandalous) even if it is with them looking adorable in the puppy filter.

You do it in a “sly” manner to avoid hurting their feelings… lol KK.

You slowly sink in quick sand and never appear again making them wonder if you moved out of town.

Luckily with social media we can aviod confrontation with drama prone people who act like they are in high school and try to waist energy in making a person choose a side rather then not caring and just living their own live.

You no longer have to speak to anyone you don’t want to speak to ever again.

Is there an underlying message?

I do think that it’s very straight-forward and simple.

You are not interested in knowing what the other person is up to, and in return you don’t want them to know what is going in your life..

Do you think that you give a person more power by blocking them?

Some we block because we are legit being harassed, stalked, all the scary stuff totally understandable — no question about it. I’m all about it. It’s annoying when you don’t want to know someone and they keep trying to force their way in your life. Or pick out certain people they wronged and say I’ve said sorry. But they still don’t get the point, it’s what they have done to you peraonally…not other people around you. With me, my money is my everything, if you mess with my home, my money or anything I have built for my kids, your evil and will be gone from my life.

It seems we literally have two separate lives, internet lives and the real world, where we interact with the physical form of a human, and it seems that this changes how people behave. Online personalities, and in person personalities, its sad and weird.

If you bump into a person in real life 9 out of 10 times they aren’t as tough as they are hiding behind their computer and cell phone.

I see people tweet horrible things and write mean comments, and if you wouldn’t say it to someone in real life why do they think they can say it online? If a person blocks you, why are you doing things first like sending screen shots first for no reason? It’s like your a jealous hateful ex and in a bad breakup with someone you don’t even know. Then they want to create extra fake issues that never even happened or were never even said. I got family I don’t talk to…so if your trying to take people away from me…lol….you still will never have any effect on me. I’m not built to care.

Like seriously, get a hobby, go knit, do some yoga or learn how to deal with your feelings that you are clearly avoiding. People like that are the reason there is a block button.

The tiny button does help heal.

It allows our obsessive brains to relax to slowly be weaned off a person. To not need that addiction of knowing what is going on in that persons life or vice versa you don’t want that person knowing what your doing in your life a sense of your personal privacy that is back. If you think of someone you know daily with hurt feelings, you’re addicted. Get over it.

Today when you enter into any kind of relationship a friendship, a romantic love, you start sharing your lives with each another so much.

When that relationship ends, you want to hide away from all those memories and moments. That it is not possible if you are constantly seeing them all over your feed. By blocking them, you get rid of them in your eyes, helping your mind heal. Out of sight out of mind.

(There used to be an easier time, we could of just put a box of there stuff in a back of the closet, destroyed there mix tape. But you probably went on a road trip together, adopted a rescue dog, spent your 1 year anniversary in Mexico and have pictures of them all over every social media platform, its okay your friend the block button has your back, and delete too.)

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